Parenting Style as a Key on the Asian Economic Community and Demography Surplus 2020

Batam is a town city which is called ASEAN gate. Many companies have grown here what makes this city is busy all the time. Environment could influence society activities which increases life necessities. Elderly concepts had gone when father is head of family earn much money to give all the needs of his family. Nowadays, mother must assist her husband to raise family income. Changes of family pattern makes parenting style must be adapted. Miss understanding about parenting style raised of childhood and adolescent problem. It will be influence for demography surplus 2020. Main idea of this research is to develop exclusive parenting style that is relevant to implicate in borderline, busy city, surplus demography challenges and ASEAN economic community. Method of this research is narrative qualitative approach which collecting data used in-depth interview, non-participant observation, and document. Data analyses used triangulation, reduce and display. Subject of this research is one exclusive family when their parent worked more than eight hours nevertheless their children also have high achievement and motivation in the school. Summary of this research such as: they could not use one pattern of parenting style, parenting style could be adjust to new condition, parent collaboration must be balance when father must be as a mother in certain condition, analysis of demography of Riau Island related to individual and community behaviour, mixed parenting styles in the same case, and how to create independent’s children.